Saleemat Mamman has advised ladies planing to go into polygamy not to see themselves as a home breaker.
The young lady say this while given 8 tips of advised to ladies that are already in polygamous home on her Facebook wall.
In her advised, she urge ladies who see themselves in a polygamous home to take it as a destiny's, not as a home breaker as some people usually believed.
Sisters In Polygamy: Food for thought
Dear Sister going into polygamy (as 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife), please note that:
You must not apologize for marrying that man. He is your husband as well as that of others.
You don't take someone's husband Allah (SWT) gave him the opportunity to marry up to 4 and you are just one of them.
Don't try to be friendly with your husband's senior wife as soon as you come in. She is still trying to adjust to the situation. Observe her and know how best to deal with her. But, BE COURTEOUS..
You are not special or in a competition where you need to win. So don't try to out-do your co-wife. BE YOURSELF.
You are not a correction to the senior wife's mistake, so don't let any man fool you. If his first wife has a shortcoming, don't go out of your way to be the correction. MEN ARE INSATIABLE.
Be courteous in your dealing with your senior wife. She was once the toast of her husband. Remember you can also be in her situation in no time.
If your husband abandoned the senior wife to be with you, please don't be happy about it. Remind him of his duty and fight him to be just. Reason being that the table may turn at any time. And you will need Allah's favour then.
What will you use as TAWASUL?
FINALLY YOU ARE NOT A HOME BREAKER!!!Surely ALLAH (SWT) HAS SIMPLY DESTINED YOU TO BE A PART OF THAT FAMILY.